Arthur Rubinstein, the
famed pianist, stated on his 84th birthday, "as long as we have what
we have inside, the capacity to love, to work, to hear music, to see a flower,
to look at the world as it is, nothing can stop us from being happy...but
one thing you must take seriously. You must get rid of the ifs of
life. Many people tell you, 'I would be happy--if I had a certain
job, of if I were better looking, or if a certain person would
marry me.' There isn't any such thing. You must live your life unconditionally,
without the ifs."
Rubinstein makes a powerful statement. Too many people are constantly finding reasons why they
can't be successful. In our consulting work, we've found entire organizations continuously involved
in excuse making. A person who always makes excuses will eventually become involved in cover-ups
of problems and end up with a very negative attitude. Living life in a conditional manner
is not living life at all.
To be successful you must accept yourself first. Avoiding the ifs and excuses will lead
to others helping you overcome any deficits. Successful people take recognized weaknesses and
turn them into building blocks for success
Four Questions For Self-Evaluation: Are you able to take a self-evaluation of the important parts of your life. Successful people are able to complete very simple and immediate self-evaluation about their life.